The recurring feelings of hurt, abuse, neglect, failure (fill in the blank) begin to define who we are, and we fear we won’t know who we are if we become someone BEYOND or WITHOUT that pain.
waxing and waning…
Actively resist the temptation to place everything in your life on a “good-bad continuum.”
I let them hammer, peel, and scrape, To let the sun-starved seed escape, And grow e’er sunward with my leaves widespread.
You are going to be surprised (unless you are already a pro at this) at how difficult this skill is. Apart from those of us who have pre-programmed performance orientation, society itself keeps telling us “busyness” and “doing many things at once” show value.
December morn – I’d end it all; Was not the plan – I went for broke.
When life doesn’t turn out the way you want, stop insisting that it not be so.
The Kohns Men have a profoundly deep inner world. Perhaps the Kohns women do, too. I can’t speak to that from personal experience, so I’ll stick to what I know.
We don’t know where to begin unwinding what it is that will make us truly “content”…
The presence of intense emotions will increase the likelihood of seeing ONLY this or ONLY that as possible reactions.
And now, behold, the deluge comes anon; containers burst and none can stand the wash.
Yes, it turns out when Jesus tells us to “love your neighbor as yourself”, it only really works right IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
Our hearts tell the truth, even when what it has to say scares the shit out of us.
“Straight people don’t get a Pride Month!” Exactly.
Yeah, nailed it. Again.
“Good luck with your self-discovery, Ben!”