I learned a very important phrase this year (one of a handful of good things to come out of a fairly dismal 2021): Don’t Yuck Someone Else’s Yum.
Let me say it again, louder for the folks in back:
I’ll start with something simple:
Thursday night and Friday, I went into full insanity baking mode and made (please hold while I count) SIX different kinds of holiday cookies and confections. Occasionally, a child of mine would wander through and try something…
“Ugh, too much lemon!”
“Oatmeal? Oatmeal is disgusting!:”
“I think you did something wrong with this one. Is it burned?
Just…. just get the fuck out of my kitchen. I’ll eat them all myself, ingrates.
Every single recipe I selected is a “yum” for me (don’t worry, some are family favorites, too. I’m not a completely selfish monster).
They are all yums for me because I picked them. I shopped for the ingredients, blended, mixed, stirred, rolled, cooked, and cut what I wanted to have for the holidays this week.
Oh, I also bought a half-gallon of eggnog ($7.99!!!) for myself. Everyone else hates it.
Don’t yuck my yum.
You don’t have to like it; you don’t have to eat it.
This post, of course, is about more than Christmas baking…
We all choose how we live our lives:
- I’m gay and married to a straight woman
- We practice polyamory – we both have boyfriends
- My wife’s boyfriend is active in the kink community – she has discovered some things she likes. I don’t share those likes.
- My boyfriend is spending Christmas with his other boyfriend at that boyfriend’s ex-wife’s home. And the children he and his ex-wife had together…
- I’m a Christian and find no conflict with any of this.
And everyone is OK with this??!!
You may be horrified. Guess what? DON’T CARE.
I’m OK with it. Those who share my “yum” are OK with it.
You get the idea.
Y’all probably “yum” some things I find yucky. I try not to tell you. It’s none of my business.
If you aren’t hurting yourself or anyone else, Godspeed.
The video that follows is especially about consent and “sexual/relationship yums”, but it can apply to anything.
Don’t want the tea? Don’t drink it.
I eat a lot of things you probably have no interest in digesting.
I’ll chew with my mouth shut.
You can do the same. It CAN be done.
#SoCS comes from the website of Linda G. Hill.
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