Confused? Ambivalent? Feeling lots of feelings? Good.
The recurring feelings of hurt, abuse, neglect, failure (fill in the blank) begin to define who we are, and we fear we won’t know who we are if we become someone BEYOND or WITHOUT that pain.
Actively resist the temptation to place everything in your life on a “good-bad continuum.”
You are going to be surprised (unless you are already a pro at this) at how difficult this skill is. Apart from those of us who have pre-programmed performance orientation, society itself keeps telling us “busyness” and “doing many things at once” show value.
When life doesn’t turn out the way you want, stop insisting that it not be so.
We don’t know where to begin unwinding what it is that will make us truly “content”…
The presence of intense emotions will increase the likelihood of seeing ONLY this or ONLY that as possible reactions.
Yes, it turns out when Jesus tells us to “love your neighbor as yourself”, it only really works right IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
Our hearts tell the truth, even when what it has to say scares the shit out of us.
“Straight people don’t get a Pride Month!” Exactly.